There may come a time when you wake up and realize you aren’t living the life you want.
Maybe you’re lost, maybe you’re broken or maybe you just don’t recognize the person in the mirror anymore. What you choose to do in that moment is crucial. If there is any possible way for you to move, to leave home, to get a start fresh, do it. Here’s why it will be the best decision you ever make.
1. You have the opportunity to reinvent yourself.
A fresh start is an incredible thing. When you leave home and start over somewhere new it is entirely your choice what you share and what you don’t. Your experiences have defined you, but you have control over which things follow you into this new stage, and which get left behind.
2. You learn what it’s like to be lonely.
Being truly on your own teaches you to appreciate having others around. Especially if you don’t know anyone in your new city, you’ll learn that alone time is important to understand what you need from others.
3. You get the chance to explore new places.
Drive around for the hell of it. Find the good restaurants, the spots to go on weekends, the quiet parks for when you need time to think. Road trip to nearby cities that you would otherwise never get the chance to visit. Take advantage of every opportunity you can.
4. You are forced to put yourself out there.
It doesn’t matter if you moved with a job lined up, friends waiting for you, both or neither.
It is up to you whether or not you make connections, personal and/or professional. If you sit at home overwhelmed it will be even harder to put roots down. Pick a place or an event and make the promise to yourself to go, even just for an hour.
5. You decide which things are worth your time and energy.
The beauty of starting new relationships is that you don’t owe anything to anyone. Those plans don’t sound fun? Don’t go. That concert will be incredible but it’s on a work night? Rally and make it happen. That gym membership is expensive? Decide if exercise is a priority. You don’t answer to anyone, so invest in choices that feel right to you.
6. You (hopefully) learn to budget your money.
How much it actually costs to live on your own may be a shock to your system at first. Decide what is necessary and what isn’t but is still important, like money for get-togethers that will help you establish a social circle. As long as you pay attention to what you spend and when you save, it will be okay.
7. You see things through a different lens.
It’s crazy how you start to see the past as if it was someone else’s life. Old choices and old patterns look vastly different, and even how you experience the present has changed. Embrace your new view and move forward.
8. You find out which relationships are the real deal.
Friends and family will be thrilled for you, but seeing who makes the time to actually check in down the line will tell you a lot. It’s one thing to get a text every few months and another to share your new experiences with someone who is genuinely excited to hear them.
9. You learn to lean on yourself.
At first, it’s easy to call your mom every time you have an issue, or want reassurance. But slowly you’ll start to realize that you are capable of your own problem solving, and your own self-soothing. Don’t resist it, both are important skills to develop.
10. You never regret it.
Just because it’s necessary now doesn’t mean it will be permanent. If this doesn’t work out you can always go home, and you’ll have learned valuable lessons either way. So do something for yourself and take the chance. No matter what happens, you’ll be glad you did.