skill the bootycall and just go back to sleep

We’ve all been there—that late night text comes through from your ex/hookup/the guy you like who will never actually date you when you’re feeling lonely. In that moment, heading to his place seems like the right choice, but a word of advice, don’t do it. I promise you’ll regret it. Every single time.

1. If he only wants you at night, he doesn’t deserve you.

A real gentleman will text you during the light of day and want to see you more often than once in awhile when he’s craving a little lovin’. You should be on his mind more times than just when it’s horny.

2. Any promise he makes is going to turn up empty.

Anything a guy says to get you to come over is just that—charming lines to get laid. You can’t take anything at face value or trust any words to be true beyond that specific moment in time.

3. Regardless of your history, he’s only thinking about himself.

He’s probably saying, “you owe him one”, “you never got closure” or “you know you want to have some fun”, but the truth is, he’s as selfish as he ever was.

4. Your self-worth shouldn’t be tied to someone else.

It feels damn good to be wanted by another person, but that’s not what should define you. You’re more than a notch on his belt and you’re certainly more than that 2 a.m. call or text.

5. Your gut is there for a reason.

If every part of you besides your sex drive is screaming, “don’t do it!” then you need to listen. Do yourself a favor and go with your instincts, not your libido.

6. You won’t be alone forever.

Not only will there be plenty of other people in your future, but most of them will want your company outside of the bedroom in the middle of the night.

7. The sex is always worse than you remember/expect it to be.

You’re most likely going to leave disappointed, in every sense. There are so many better ways to enjoy yourself alone, like netflix and uber eats for example…

8. It won’t change anything between you.

Regardless of what you think he wants, what he’s said or what he’s implied, it won’t make a difference. If he wanted to change how things are, he would treat you like a human instead of a piece of ass.

9. Everything looks different when you’re lonely.

When you’re lying awake wondering if someone will ever love you the way you need, you’re at your most vulnerable. If you allow yourself to take a step back and see the big picture, you’ll realize that having someone bad for you isn’t actually better than not having anyone at all.

10. If you give in once, you’re bound to do it again.

Don’t let history repeat itself by giving in over and over. It will only make you more likely to do it again. And unfortunately, the regret will only get worse.

11. You don’t need him, no matter how much you think you do.

One day, he’ll be a non-important part of your past. It’s natural in the moment to convince yourself you want to go over, but if you have to do any convincing, it’s not the right call.

12. When you wake up the next day, you’ll be glad you stayed home.

There’s nothing more validating than re-reading his texts the next morning and being happy you didn’t run over when he begged. You’re better and stronger than his pathetic attempts to use you, and damn will it feel good to know you didn’t give in.

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